Self Care for Black Mothers

The way of implementing self-care before becoming a mom has everything to do with how you adjust and manage your self-care after you become one. Knowing how to assess your needs through self-actualization or outside help becomes more critical when another life is relying on your every decision.

-Avoiding any activity or conversation that will stir up emotions that may not obey a timeline

-The literal thought passing through my mind: I don’t have time to feel this right now

-Gradually skipping activities that may bring sheer and ultimate pleasure.

-Feeling bad about feeling sad

Decreasing interest in beautifying yourself

-Repeating daily pre-listed scripts for everyone in the house just to get out of the door in the morning and to get your child to bed at night

-Denying occasional deviations from the day-to-day schedule

-Ignoring reoccurring physical aches or pains while playing with your child

The issue with each of these signs is not that they occur. The problem with these signs is how often they occur — occasionally or frequently. Disconnecting from your feelings is the root cause of disconnecting from what you need.

Running from difficult or intense emotions is like running from the cheat sheet to your Self Care Plan programme. Critical and intense emotions tell you something about yourself that no person can ever tell you as profoundly as in that moment. As a mother, these intense emotions can color the overall parenting experience. When they are intense, your children feel it.

Caring for yourself as a mother requires the use of every component of this Self Care Program, as often as possible: checking in with a Self Care Buddy or Support Group, asking advice from your Self Care Dream Team members, finding the time to assess your needs, and creating baby steps. Your quality of life matters, not because you are a mother, but because you matter.

If you do only one self-care act as a new mother, please be sure to socialize with other moms and create a Self Care Support Group for Moms in your area.

Mothers are the heartbeat of the family. The best thing she can ever do for her family is to take care of herself physically, mentally and spiritually.

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Adapted from the book: Self Care Matters A Revolutionary’s Approach by Anana Johari Harris Parris (Connect with her)