Implementing Self- Care In “Black” Lives

Creating a Self Care Plan is the first step towards freedom from being at the complete mercy of another person or situation. Quietly, some of us are one paycheck away from being homeless, one tragedy away from losing our minds, one bad meal away from a heart attack, one test away from flunking out of school, one reckless sexual behavior away from contracting an incurable illness, one neglectful act away from losing the love of our lives. Now is the time to create a plan customized to your needs and begin taking good care of yourself. We have created roadmap, a plan that helps you proactively address your needs on a regular basis.

1.Self Care Dream Team

Your Dream Team is a group of individuals who specialize in the various areas of self-care. The team can include mentors, experienced and knowledgeable associates, friends or professionals you enlist to focus on your betterment in every category of self-care. You can have more than one Dream Team member per category, if you want. For example, your Physical Care Dream Team members could include a dentist, and your personal trainer.

This team member does not need to be formally announced to have been selected as being you dream team member. Typically they already are working in that particular industry and enjoy sharing and offering advice. They should care about how they talk to you as much as what information and guidance they are offering. They should also be able to be concise and supportive.

2.Self Care Buddy

A Self Care Buddy is a person who agrees to randomly contact you on a regular basis via texting, calling, visiting or private messaging you with a simple question: How is your self-care going? This buddy may or may not share his or her personal experiences or opinions with you, but they genuinely care about how you’re doing and wait for an answer. Your Self Care Buddy is simply a cheerleader dedicated to supporting you along your self-care journey.

How to Pick a Self Care Buddy

A Self Care Buddy is not always a best friend or close relative. It could be an associate familiar with the Self Care Plan solely interested in your personal success. He/she is not swayed by worry nor are they judgmental about your answer. Your Self Care Buddy will not attempt to cure you only listen. The main goal of a Self Care Buddy is to bring the topic of your overall self-care to the forefront of your mind and show you that someone does care about you taking care of yourself. A Self Care Buddy will also be sure to not turn the conversation into an opportunity to vent about their own problems.

3.The Self Care Journal and Playbook

Reduce your plan to writing. The moment you complete this, you will have definitely given concrete form to the intangible desire. — Napoleon Hill

The Self Care Journal & Playbook is your primary self-care tool. This two-part tool contains a journal, an area where you can write down your feelings on a daily basis, and the playbook, your game plan to reaching your self-care goals.

Scientific evidence supports that journaling provides other unexpected benefits. The act of writing accesses your left brain, which is analytical and rational. While your left brain is occupied, your right brain is free to create, intuit and feel. In sum, writing removes mental blocks and allows you to use all of your brainpower to better understand yourself, others and the world around you. Journaling helps you track your unedited thoughts about how you are taking care of yourself in all areas.

With Self Care Plan, the only rule is that you aren’t allowed to put any pressure on yourself about what you write, when you write, how often you write, and whether or not you share your thoughts with anyone else.

4.Self Care Planning Keys

The self-care keys are affirmations designed to address critical experiences that might occur during the implementation of a self-care plan. Each key opens the door to a perspective meant to empower you along your way. The keys give you the license and breathing room to continue your challenge with fewer struggles. These are the keys:

COURAGE: I have the courage to welcome guidance and support on my self-care journey and release the fear of making mistakes.

WORTHINESS: I reflect, manage, and discuss my worth in a protected space throughout my self-care journey.

INSPIRATION: I place myself in an environment to be inspired and refueled on a regular basis.

FORGIVENESS: I forgive myself for the moments when I don’t take good care of myself.

COMMITMENT: I commit to myself to build a foundation of spiritual and emotional support throughout my self-care journey.

PROTECTION: I protect my self-care journey by only sharing my journey with safe and encouraging people and only when I feel it’s necessary.

PEACE: I choose to be at peace with the rate at which my self-care plan is progressing and to compassionately share my process when someone in need inquires.

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Adapted from the book: Self Care Matters A Revolutionary’s Approach by Anana Johari Harris Parris (Connect with her)